Happy New Year!

2018 is finally here! And just like every new year, we are all trying to make positive changes in our lives. Eventually you grow tired of the cliche, one-size-fits-all resolutions. I guarantee you will find several social media posts that will talk about losing weight, traveling more, raising a credit score, etc. etc. No shade to anyone's aspirations but sometimes we must tackle a deeper issue before we can move on to our ultimate goal. Maybe more direct resolutions like 'work on self-discipline', 'become more self-aware', or 'get a therapist' could benefit us this year!

One of my goals this year is to stop being negative. I was born a pessimist. I am THEE devil's advocate. I can find the downside in any situation. Frankly, I have officially worked my own damn nerve being a negative Nancy. In order for me to be a better mother, daughter, friend, employee, and PERSON, I have to tackle this.

While reading about my top 5 strengths in 'Strengths Finders 2.0' by Tom Rath (which I highly recommend), his other book 'How Full is Your Bucket' was brought to my attention. The title and message of the book is a metaphor. When positive things are said to you, it fills your bucket. The reverse happens when negative things affect you. You can also fill and dip into others' buckets.

The entire book compares and contrasts how negativity and positivity impact lives. Our health, careers, relationships, and longevity are at stake. Rath gave examples and even used his personal story to show the benefits of positive speaking and thinking. He ends the book with five strategies to increase emotions. 'Shine a light on what is right" is the second strategy suggested. Instead of focusing on what went wrong, focus on what is done right. If you are in an authoritative position (i.e. parent, manager), try praising the person for what they did right instead of what they can do to improve. Read the book to hear about the other 4 strategies.

Now I know FOR SURE that I have to work on my negativity. However, you may not be sure. Feel free to take the Positive Impact Test at bucketbook.com (it's quick and free). If you want to buy the book, visit here.